“The world does not require so much to be informed as to be reminded”-Hannah More

What has been will be again,

what has been done will be done again;

there is nothing new under the sun.

“Look! This is something new?”

It was here already long ago;

it was here before our time.

-Ecclesiastes I:9-10

LANGUAGESo as I mentioned before, my life recently has been a whirlwind of working from home, working to build my personal empire, as well as that of my family, figuring out things about my life and self that I didn’t even know I was confused about, and on top of it all being a 24/7 mommy. In the midst of the “hectic-ness” that is my life, I am also attempting to read several books, one of which is ‘POSITIVE WORDS, POWERFUL RESULTS: SIMPLE WAYS TO HONOR, AFFIRM, AND CELEBRATE LIFE’ by Hal Urban. I have been taught over the last couple of years the power that not only feelings, but actual words can have over life, situation(s), and overall well-being, but I never truly grasped it until I began reading this book (I’ll provide a link at the end of this post for anyone who may be interested). Although I thought I had a fairly good idea on the impact that my words have now, and have had in the past, the words within the pages of this book made me realized otherwise.WORDS

The purpose of this post was not meant to be lengthy, or intellectually deep, but, as my title says, I just wanted to remind everyone out there of the power that your words, both positive and negative, can have on not only your life, but the lives of others as well. With all the harshness that is already in our world, do a kindness…spread some positivity and happiness to others, including yourself. Share a compliment, tell yourself that you’re beautiful…that you’re awesome. I don’t really think that’s something that we do enough…Lord knows I don’t..so enjoy your Saturday, and remember that everyday we have the COMPLETE choice to be happy and share that happiness with others 🙂

Positive Words, Powerful Results: Simple Ways to Honor, Affirm, and Celebrate Life

Til’ next time….

-Me

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” I thought I was promiscuous, but it turns out I was just thorough”- Russell Brand

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Love in the 21st Century

Love. One word that can already be confusing as hell. When you throw in today’s age of texting, social media, online dating, long-distance relationships, and who knows what else, the idea of love can seem like an even more complex, and unfamiliar, area. Let me start by saying that this is my own personal opinion on what I think love in the 21st century means to me, at the end of the day, however, I believe that love should be whatever you define it as. Whether its between two men, two women, a husband and wife, or high school sweethearts….love is not something that can be defined by society.

So, I am 27 years old…not that its time to send me out to pasture or anything, but I have to admit that the idea of love and relationships has seemed to evolve into a whole nother’ thing in today’s age, and especially since I have been that naive, bright-eyed highschooler madly in puppy love. And I am not just speaking from my own perceptions of today’s “love”, I also have a younger brother, who is 17 going on 30, that gives me the daily scoop on his “relationships” and “boos”, in addition to the various rules that apparently teen dating consists of. In regards to love and all this technology that has popped over the last few years, it seems that, from my experience, “relationships” (and I used that term loosely) have evolved from chirping your girlfriend/boyfriend on the latest Nextel (and that was after the phase of calling your sweetheart on their house phone, get into a good convo, then have their parents, or yours, come onto the line and say they need to use the phone) to commenting on their pictures/statuses via Facebook and/or Instagram…things that didn’t exist a decade ago. What can one do though? Times will keep a-changing…I’m confident that love will keep up however 🙂BW_Flatt_Brain

While we’re on the subject of love in the 21st century, let me steer away from technology and love and just briefly speak on what my own understanding of love is because, regardless of the technological advances that has emerged, I can definitely say my understanding of it is one thing that has evolved over the years. I was a selfish girlfriend. Boom. That’s it. Let me clarify though…I wasn’t a selfish person (well at least no more than the average person, I think we all have a bit of a selfish trait within us, but that’s neither here nor there). Even though I wasn’t a selfish individual (per se 🙂 ), when it came down to relationships….I don’t know…I just had some helluva growing up to do. Unfortunately I didn’t make that realization until years later. As I look back on it, I had my fair share of selfish moments…moments that I’m not going to go into because that’s not necessary, but they got pretty bad. And the messed up thing is I really don’t have a valid reason why…well, at least not one that doesn’t sound like a bucket of crap. I was young, naive, felt like what I wanted and/or needed was the only thing that mattered…take your pick. I didn’t grow up and get over myself until relationships were destroyed and feelings were hurt. Even more specifically, I didn’t TRULY grow up until I became involved with the gentleman I am currently with…the apple of my eye…the thorn in my side…the father of my child…the love of my life…the head in my ache….you get the idea.

It was not until we started our life together that I realized what love really is….for me. I’m not saying some generic definition like I had in the beginning of our relationship. I mean the deep, messy s*** that can sometimes happen in relationships, the stuff that stays between you and your partner because no on else would probably understand. Now, don’t get me wrong, I have loved before and if I were honest with myself I would say that I was in love before….once. My high school sweetheart (yea I was that girl)…we grew away from each other in the end, but we loved each other hard and I will always have a fondness for him. Even so, I don’t think anyone can truly comprehend what love is to them until they REALLY begin to start their life with someone (and let’s not even mention live together…that’s a whole nother’ discussion). My boyfriend has seen all my flaws…the nasty stuff..I mean I hit rock bottom with this man..and yet, he still loves me like its the beginning. And vice versa. Just to be clear, we are not perfect by a long shot…we argue…he annoys me, I annoy him, there are days when we want to shoot each other with rubber bullets…we both make our own mistakes, and we both are still learning each crianças-29other.But even with the crap I can honestly say that it did nothing but strengthen the foundation of our relationship (and trust me, it was real touch and go for a bit). And THAT is what love in the 21st century means for me; when you bring in honesty, communication, trust, and support in your relationship, everything else will fall in place. Oh, and have fun! I don’t think enough couples have fun nowadays…travel…go out…have dates…flirt..all that stuff.

Whether its the 21st century, or centuries ahead, when you are blessed to find the person who is willing to put up with you and vice versa, take care of him/her. And it regards to what love is, create your own definition…there is no right or wrong answer (unless you think love is about ruthless, dominating power or something…that might be a not-so-great answer, but to each their own!).

Til’ next time….

-Me

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself”- George Bernard Shaw

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In my previous post I participated in a Weekly Writing Challenge via The Daily Post and I must admit that I now have become addicted. 🙂 I have discovered numerous topics that caught my attention, and of course I just HAD to bookmark a few to write about later on. First, and foremost, I have to give credit where credit is due, the inspiration that I have gained thus far from The Daily Post has made me look at myself more in-depth than ever before. It has allowed me and given me the courage to ask myself the hard questions, which is what led me to write this particular post.

Each and every one of us is made up of our own special “ingredients”…the things that are specific only to us and make us who we are, all of our quirks, antics, and oddities. 😉 Now here’s the recipe me for my yummy goodness!

Main Dish:

2 cups dreamer
3 cups achiever
1 cup fitness freak
2 cups wine lover
3/4 cups traveler
1/2 cup OCD
1/4 tablespoon procrastinator
1/4 teaspoon insecure
a pinch of sarcasm
salt and pepper to taste

To Garnish:

4 tattoos
One pair of sexy specs

Instructions:

Mix all ingredients in an over-sized Jacuzzi tub, add the wine last, and stir briskly. Let marinate overnight. Serve on a bed of wisdom.

And that’s it folks! Me in a nutshell! What about you all?? Think about your own recipe! I would love to hear about them! Be blessed everyone 🙂

Til’ next time….

 

 

“Reflect upon your present blessings-of which every man has many-not on your past misfortunes, of which all men has some”- Charles Dickens

When I woke up this morning, I had every intention to write on a completely different topic, however, I was on my blog *waves cheerfully to all my new followers* and on my timeline I came across something that piqued my interest greatly; The Daily Post is a blog that I follow (and one that I recommend you guys follow as well!) that provides inspiration, writing topics, various writing challenges, and numerous other blogging goodies 🙂 © Copyright 2010 CorbisCorporationWhat caught my eye was their weekly writing challenge for the week of September 30th: DNA Analysis. Now, they are asking for more than simply describing your physical features…rather, they want to know: Who do you see in your face? In your personality? I decided to give this challenge a go and will also provide the link to The Daily Post at the end of this post so that you may do the same!

My mother. These two words come to mind whenever I look into the mirror. I see her big brown eyes, her smile, her light skin (although I’m a tad lighter), and the quirky facial expressions that she makes. When I was younger, and perhaps up until I was in my early adult years, I didn’t believe much that I looked anything like my mother. Not in a negative way of thinking or anything, I just simply felt that I didn’t physically resemble either one of my parents. However, as I became older, I realized I couldn’t my mother if I wanted to 😉

When I look pass my physical attributes, down to my personality, I see significantly more. I see my mother’s pride and stubbornness, I see her sense of humor and her ability to be “superwoman”. I see my father’s temper (although I have made tremendous strides in THAT arena 🙂 ), I see his quietness and reserve….well, unless he’s had one too many strawberry daiquiris. I also see his love for new places and things, his independence, and love for old school music (I can listen to the Gap Band all day). Lastly, but unfortunately, I can see his negative thinking and the burden of letting his circumstances dictate his life (although, as with his temper, that is another trait I refuse to acknowledge).

Its funny because as I look at all the things that I “see” when I look in the mirror, it also made me realize the things that I do NOT see, however that is neither here nor there, the reason for this being that, simply put, I have the POWER to put the things that I do not see…THERE. Although this is knowledge that I have gained before, I thank The Daily Post for reminding me! Instead of constantly acknowledging the things that I feel are lacking in the mirror, I can now recognize the great things in me that I received from both parents: a courageous, determined, and beautiful young woman. Capable of pursuing and achieving her dreams with a quiet passion and determination that many do not have today.

Now THAT is what my reflection looks like….

What do YOU see when you look in the mirror??

Visit The Daily Post at the link below and let us know 🙂

The Daily Post Weekly Writing Challenge

Til’ next time….

“The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice….its conformity”- Rollo May

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Ok so before I begin, I feel the need to just throw out another disclaimer regarding the purpose of this here blog. About a month or so ago, I had a rough week. Not a rough day, but a whole rough week; looking back, I can’t really say what triggered it….I was just feeling down and out about life, I hit a stressful parenting roadblock, and I was just in a complete and utter funk. What brought me out of said funk, which ironically was the same day that I decided to start this blog, was that I realized that I could be an inspiration to others who may experience, or have experienced, the same feelings and emotions that I had. Even if I never get a chance to meet them, I know that I would be honored to be someone’s inspiration story  and the reason that they kept going. And that my friends, is what I hope to accomplish here! So there will not necessarily be any type of structure to this blog…just whatever I feel may be helpful and motivating to others:-)

So, with that being said, I read The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale the other day (for the 17th time) and I felt that it would be a great topic for my next post. In a previous post, I confessed my prior “personal” perception on what I considered to success to be…simply put, I used to believe that success was automatically equated to money, and at the time I believed that the only people who made real money were athletes, lawyers, CEOs, and Beyonce:-) However, this perception was obviously wrong and was changed dramatically, thanks to The Strangest Secret. Success, as defined by Earl Nightingale, is “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal”. Although this is obviously a very simple definition, it was a fairly difficult concept for me to grasp. What exactly constituted a worthy idea?? The cure to cancer? Developing flying cars?? I had no clue so I read further….magnify-question-mark-1

“A success is the schoolteacher who is teaching school because that’s what she wanted to do. A success is the woman who’s a wife and a mother because she wanted to become a wife and a mother and is doing a good job of it. Success is the man who runs the corner gas station because that’s what he wanted to do”. What does all this mean?? It means that success is considered to be anyone that deliberately dos a predetermined job because that’s what he/she wants to do. I believe this is where society gets confused. As Nightingale states, you can ask most individuals today “Why do you work?” and most will not have a clear idea as to the answer. Sure, they will say, “To pay bills, provide for my family, etc.” but in reality most will really not have an answer to why they are doing a job that they really do not want to do…or why they are doing any job for that matter.

Nightingale asserts that there is one key to success or failure, (depending on the individual) and this is simply: “We become what we think about”. I’m sure this is familiar to some, right? The Secret? Law of Attraction? I’m sorry to all my non-believers (it took me a while myself), but there is nothing you can do to convince me that we do NOT become what we think about. This is something that I personally have realized, both in terms of the positive and the negative, and it was four simple steps that brought me to these realizations (similar to the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, but more straightforward).

One: You will become what you think about (good and bad)

Two: Imagination…let it soar!! Always!!

Three: Make sure that you concentrate on your goal, whatever that may be, every single daythe_strangest_secret_to_success

Four: Save 10% of what you earn (even it may not be much, start somewhere!)

And that folks, sums it up!! Now just let me say, in previous posts I went over the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success…I am not saying that you HAVE  to apply all these laws in your life in order for you to see change within your self, however you will begin to notice that they all kinda tie in together….just different titles:-) Either way, follow these steps…remember that nothing happens overnight, but notice the change that will begin to take place in your life, on both the outside and the inside:-) Before I say goodbye, however, I just wanted to direct you guys to the links below as a reference to where I purchased my own copy of The Strangest Secret, as well as The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, in case you would like to do the same!

The Strangest Secret
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams

*Note: I do receive a small commission for all purchases through Amazon.com, however I will not recommend an item to anyone that I have not personally viewed myself*

Be blessed! Til’ next time….

-Me

“The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page” ~Augustine of Hippo

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Happy Friday world!!!! I hope you all have had an amazing, productive, and blessed week:)

So….what’s on the agenda for today?? Perhaps you can blame it on my recent trip to Boston, MA, but I wanted to discuss the amazing world of travel, something that up until recently, I majorly took for granted. I didn’t travel a lot growing up…partly due to financial issues, but mainly because, for whatever reason, I had no real desire for it (I know, right??). It wasn’t until after I graduated from college in 2010 that I truly realized there was a WHOLE world that existed outside of Lansing, Michigan. While working at my old job I had the sudden desire to get the hell out of dodge…I had no clear idea of where I wanted to go, I just knew that I needed to see more than the bipolar weather conditions and 3pm-11pm shifts that I was working at the time. I hopped on the computer and was compelled to two places: Texas and North Carolina. Now, keep in mind that I had never been to either of these places….there was just something that drew me to them, I couldn’t even explain it. Long story short, I met my boyfriend several months later, who ironically lived in North Carolina, and from there I began exploring the world of travel. Since then I have been to North Carolina (place of residence, obviously), Atlanta, South Carolina, New York, New Jersey, Boston, as well as a few other random places in between. Now I know that these places may not be considered exotic or luxurious, but for someone who rarely got out of Lansing, let alone Michigan, I was blessed and excited to visit all these places. As a result, I have met some beautiful and great people…all with different cultures and backgrounds than my own. Going to all these places did nothing but increase my thirst to travel the world (I have yet to travel outside of the country…..yet). It made me even more infatuated with all the beautiful, historic, and awe-inspiring locations that are all over this great earth…some well-known….some not so much. $(KGrHqZHJDgFC7lch,w9BRsoHd3epw~~60_35

A couple of months ago  I purchased a LIFE magazine dedicated to the 100 most beautiful places on earth….Paradise Found…in this post I will briefly touch on a few of my favorite places described in the book (obviously I won’t go over all 100:). I hope that this gives you the same inspiration and motivation that it did for me….to discover the great beauty that exists all over…

  #1 Antelope Canyon Arizona:  This gorgeous creation is located in northern Arizona, it has been opened to the public since 1997 and is considered to be one of the most popular destinations in the southwest. How could you now feel the stirring in your soul to visit a place like this?? Right here in the U.S. too….*sighs dreamily*

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#2 Pisgah National Forest North Carolina: I’m embarrassed to say that I have not made it to this gorgeous location and I reside in the great ol’ state of North Carolina. This amazing forest is located in northern North Carolina and houses glorious waterfalls, sensational mountain peaks, and hundreds of trails. As I look back at the pictures of this place, I have made the realization that the hubby and I will have to make a trip here in the very near future.

download (2)#3 Isla Espiritu Santo Baja, Mexico: So as I have said, I have not had the pleasure of traveling out of the country as of yet, but this destination is at the very top of my to-do list.  This little jewel is located in the Sea of Cortez, in the Mexican state of Baja California Sur. Its accessed mainly by kayak, and known for its crystal clear waters, bands of dolphins, and giant turtles.

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#4 KII Mountains Japan: Although my traveling has been limited, I have become infatuated with the serene beauty of Japan over the recent months. However, as I looked through the magazine, this particular location stood out significantly to me. The KII Mountains are located right off the southern coast of Japan and is primarily known for being the sacred ground of Shinto pilgrims. There are three scared shrines and two temples that are located within 25 miles of each other; this tranquil place is filled with a mystical peace that I have every intention of exploring.

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Now, as I said earlier, I wasn’t going to touch on every single location that was listed in LIFE…I simply wanted to give you all a glimpse of what is out there…just in case you needed a nudge or whatnot:-) Life is too short not to take advantage of the beauty that God has placed on this earth…be inspired and motivated by these photos, just as I was, and maybe…just maybe…we’ll meet on the mountain ranges of KII or on the islands of Baja, Mexico!!

Til’ next time…

-Me

 

“Mothers are all slightly insane”~ J.D. Salinger

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Happy Tuesday folks!!!!

So out of all the numerous topics that can be discussed, talked about, and “dwelled” upon, I decided to approach a topic that’s rather personal for me. I explained in my very first post that the purpose of this blog is to reach out to individuals all around the world in regards to the various components of life: health, wealth, happiness, personal development, lifestyle, travel…everything. My goal is to Reach Out…Motivate….and Inspire….

This particular post will be geared towards a topic that I have learned much about over the last 21 months, and that would be the joys and frustrations of being a stay-at-home mom. Now, before I begin, let me make a few disclaimers: (1) I understand that there are mothers out there who LOVE being a stay-at-home mom and that is COMPLETELY fine…I am simply speaking from my own, personal experiences that I have had thus far (2) This post is not just for my fellow stay-at-home moms…this can apply to my working moms, and even the stay-at-home dads that are out there…whoever can find motivation from it (3) This post will be one of rawness and honesty….in no way am I saying that every stay-at-home mom (or moms period) feel these things, but I am also not naive enough to believe that I am the only woman that experiences these emotions and feelings (4), Lastly, what I hope to accomplish with this post is to motivate and inspire women (fellas too if applicable) by voicing my own challenges and accomplishments that I have achieved (challenges can be achievements too because I’m still here to talk about them) in the world of parenting. Feel free to share any of your own feelings and/or experiences!!

So…my first year of parenting was rough. I won’t give you guys all the gory details but to say it was a struggle would be an understatement; my boyfriend and I became parents unexpectedly and fast. Moment of honesty #91: we had only known each other for a whopping four months before we discovered that we were pregnant.On top of this little fact, we moved 750 miles away to North Carolina a couple of months later. So, it goes without saying that we were still learning each other and our quirks, while also preparing to be newbie parents, while I was 6 months preggo. Therefore, I was bitchy, unstable, sober, and emotional at the same time that I was miles away from the only support system I had ever known. Once I had our daughter in December 2011, things did get a tad bit more stable, less bitchy, and less stressful (a bit) however, I was still both emotional and sober. I was now entering into the world of post-partum depression, something that I did not even believe truly existed until I witnessed it firsthand. I experienced severe frustration about my body not being my own (that whole breastfeeding ordeal), frustration about being at home, and not having an outlet for said frustrations (“stay-at-home mom” was not a title that I willingly chose), in addition to a host of other frustrations that I don’t need to go into. There were a lot of tears, cussing, and wine bottles in the trash that year (I didn’t stick with breastfeeding…..obviously). However, the BIGGEST struggle for me was that I simply did not know who I was outside of being a mother and a girlfriend, and I had no clue how to discover the answer, If you were to ask me today I would say that I was a pretty good newbie mother and I truly did my best, but it was a daily struggle on the inside….

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So…let’s fast forward to now (you guys won’t miss much)…I still have my days. Although I am doing way more with my time (blogging, starting a business, 3 months from getting my MBA, conquering the Insanity workout series), I still have my days. We are currently in the process of finding some local early head start programs that do not require the sacrifice of a child to attend (because let’s face it, $857/month???) so until that happens I am still holding the title of “stay-at-home mom” and it does indeed get challenging. But come on, my fellow parents know that it is also a blessing….there is truly nothing like watch a child, that you and your partner created, grow and blossom each and every day. Our daughter has, and is, developing her own personality with each day…I see both myself and her father in her so clearly.

I did not write this post to go into the stressful aspects of parenting, I did so because I wanted those out there, parents and dads, to know that they aren’t alone in there frustrations and feelings. I know this because there have been numerous occasions when I might as well have been the only mom on the face of the earth. I learned to grow as a mother…my boyfriend and I have learned to grow with each other…therefore providing a support system that I did not have here at first. I also have been blessed to meet some really wonderful and beautiful people that also has helped me feel less alone…

That is what I would advise anyone to do….get out…find outlets….talk to your partner. If you are a single parent talk to family…friends…hell, see a therapist if need be. Just do not get caught up in the frustrations and stresses that can come from being a parent. Enjoy the daily growth of your child/children…if you pray, do so….I can’t tell you the number of times prayer has saved me from putting my daughter in the dishwasher.

Please, please feel free to leave any comments or feelings…I would love to hear them:) I hope that by sharing part of my story, I have inspired yours….

Til’ next time everyone…..

-Me