“The world does not require so much to be informed as to be reminded”-Hannah More

What has been will be again,

what has been done will be done again;

there is nothing new under the sun.

“Look! This is something new?”

It was here already long ago;

it was here before our time.

-Ecclesiastes I:9-10

LANGUAGESo as I mentioned before, my life recently has been a whirlwind of working from home, working to build my personal empire, as well as that of my family, figuring out things about my life and self that I didn’t even know I was confused about, and on top of it all being a 24/7 mommy. In the midst of the “hectic-ness” that is my life, I am also attempting to read several books, one of which is ‘POSITIVE WORDS, POWERFUL RESULTS: SIMPLE WAYS TO HONOR, AFFIRM, AND CELEBRATE LIFE’ by Hal Urban. I have been taught over the last couple of years the power that not only feelings, but actual words can have over life, situation(s), and overall well-being, but I never truly grasped it until I began reading this book (I’ll provide a link at the end of this post for anyone who may be interested). Although I thought I had a fairly good idea on the impact that my words have now, and have had in the past, the words within the pages of this book made me realized otherwise.WORDS

The purpose of this post was not meant to be lengthy, or intellectually deep, but, as my title says, I just wanted to remind everyone out there of the power that your words, both positive and negative, can have on not only your life, but the lives of others as well. With all the harshness that is already in our world, do a kindness…spread some positivity and happiness to others, including yourself. Share a compliment, tell yourself that you’re beautiful…that you’re awesome. I don’t really think that’s something that we do enough…Lord knows I don’t..so enjoy your Saturday, and remember that everyday we have the COMPLETE choice to be happy and share that happiness with others 🙂

Positive Words, Powerful Results: Simple Ways to Honor, Affirm, and Celebrate Life

Til’ next time….

-Me

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“Reflect upon your present blessings-of which every man has many-not on your past misfortunes, of which all men has some”- Charles Dickens

When I woke up this morning, I had every intention to write on a completely different topic, however, I was on my blog *waves cheerfully to all my new followers* and on my timeline I came across something that piqued my interest greatly; The Daily Post is a blog that I follow (and one that I recommend you guys follow as well!) that provides inspiration, writing topics, various writing challenges, and numerous other blogging goodies 🙂 © Copyright 2010 CorbisCorporationWhat caught my eye was their weekly writing challenge for the week of September 30th: DNA Analysis. Now, they are asking for more than simply describing your physical features…rather, they want to know: Who do you see in your face? In your personality? I decided to give this challenge a go and will also provide the link to The Daily Post at the end of this post so that you may do the same!

My mother. These two words come to mind whenever I look into the mirror. I see her big brown eyes, her smile, her light skin (although I’m a tad lighter), and the quirky facial expressions that she makes. When I was younger, and perhaps up until I was in my early adult years, I didn’t believe much that I looked anything like my mother. Not in a negative way of thinking or anything, I just simply felt that I didn’t physically resemble either one of my parents. However, as I became older, I realized I couldn’t my mother if I wanted to 😉

When I look pass my physical attributes, down to my personality, I see significantly more. I see my mother’s pride and stubbornness, I see her sense of humor and her ability to be “superwoman”. I see my father’s temper (although I have made tremendous strides in THAT arena 🙂 ), I see his quietness and reserve….well, unless he’s had one too many strawberry daiquiris. I also see his love for new places and things, his independence, and love for old school music (I can listen to the Gap Band all day). Lastly, but unfortunately, I can see his negative thinking and the burden of letting his circumstances dictate his life (although, as with his temper, that is another trait I refuse to acknowledge).

Its funny because as I look at all the things that I “see” when I look in the mirror, it also made me realize the things that I do NOT see, however that is neither here nor there, the reason for this being that, simply put, I have the POWER to put the things that I do not see…THERE. Although this is knowledge that I have gained before, I thank The Daily Post for reminding me! Instead of constantly acknowledging the things that I feel are lacking in the mirror, I can now recognize the great things in me that I received from both parents: a courageous, determined, and beautiful young woman. Capable of pursuing and achieving her dreams with a quiet passion and determination that many do not have today.

Now THAT is what my reflection looks like….

What do YOU see when you look in the mirror??

Visit The Daily Post at the link below and let us know 🙂

The Daily Post Weekly Writing Challenge

Til’ next time….

“Food is like sex: when you abstain, even the worst stuff begins to look good”- Beth McCollister

tumblr_lxe2lbPhEs1r8jhklo1_r1_500Weight loss. Fitness. Diets. Green smoothies. Insanity workouts. Body wraps. All things that have tremendous meaning in our society today, right? I wanted to share something that is fairly personal for me…an area of my life that I still struggle with from time to time. When I was a junior in college I went to the doctor for a routine check up…I went through the usual stuff and when it was time for me to step on the scale, the doctor’s exact words were “Oh, you’re a bit on the heavier end of the scale”…..I was 159 at the time (I’m 5’3ish by the way, just to give you a visual) . Needless to say, that statement traumatized me more than I realized at the time….I became incredibly self-conscious, insecure, and obsessed with my weight. Looking back, I know that I had no one to blame for my weight gain but myself (I was roughly 120 coming into college)…I mean, I was your typical college student…living off burgers and pizza while staying in the dorms, gorged on the local taco shop every other night after the bar…drank like a rockstar every weekend, and had absolutely no clue on how to even begin getting both my weight and confidence in order; other than what I discovered on Google, I didn’t know the first thing about weight loss or fitness. As time went on, I became more depressed and frustrated about my weight…prior to that doctor’s appointment, I never considered my weight to be an issue. I knew I wasn’t the smallest person in the world, but I was comfortable with where I was. I am certain that that doctor forgot me as soon as I walked out the door, but his words stayed with me for a very long time. *takes sip of imaginary wine* Fortunately, there was a light at the end of the tunnel…I made the decision to get off my butt and do something about it…I was beyond tired of feeling sorry for myself. I took the first step by enrolling in weight training class with my boyfriend, at the time, during my senior images (1)year. Having someone there that I knew to support and motivate me got me through a lot of the rough moments in the beginning, in addition to helping me get  over the initial embarrassment of working out in front of a room of complete strangers. The class ended and I still kept pushing (thankfully my determination lasted longer than my “then” boyfriend); I hired a personal trainer that happened to be in my Psych class and who, fortunately, didn’t charge a million dollars an hour. To say this is where it became challenging is an understatement…unlike before, when I was able to control my own workouts and the duration in my weight training class, I now had someone pushing me to do workouts that I had never even heard of for lengths of time I was NOT used to.

On the flip side, however, I became more obsessive and determined to achieve my weight-loss goal. Even so, there were plenty of days I wanted to say “eff” it and go the hell home. Fast forwarding about 6 months or so, I went from 159-135 by the time I parted ways with my trainer. Most would probably be satisfied with these results right? Nope, not me…I still wanted more; when I looked in the mirror I still felt like I “needed” to lose more weight. I joined a gym near my place and kept pushing myself…and this involved me beginning to use diet pills…something that I have never told anyone before. By the time it was all said and done, I was at 123…fairly skinny, even for my height. As I said, I was obsessed…at the time I equated beauty (at least for myself) to be a size 0. It was a tough point in my life, and as I think back on it, I probably would have never been satisfied with my weight and body because I wasn’t confident in myself to begin with…. In April 2011 I got pregnant so naturally, the weight that I loss, plus some extra goodies came back; I became my heaviest ever, 174, then dropped down to about 155ish once I had my daughter. Unfortunately the insecurities came back along with the weight (I no longer had the excuse of pregnancy). These insecurities, and my renewed obsession led me to attempt the Insanity workout series, barely a month after I gave birth (insane, right?). download

Anywho, I have shared all of this with you guys because I wanted to tell you all about my journey to this point in my life; I realized that if you don’t like something about yourself, or your life, or whatever it may be, you can make the conscious choice to change it. I can’t lie and say that my insecurities no longer exist, they do…however, I am not the same girl that I was who felt she couldn’t do anything about them. This time I put down the diet pills and I started off slow doing simple at home workouts…Jillian Michaels, Jeannette Jenkins mostly. I don’t diet at all, but simply monitor my eating habits and practice moderation….oh, and I drink a crap ton of water, which was always a challenge for me! Of course it didn’t happen overnight but I went from 155-140…this may not seem like a large number but it has been a huge accomplishment for me…mainly because I know that I achieved this all on my own and I’m still not done! (I have been attempting to upload a progress pic for hours but this laptop is disagreeing with me for some reason, but I promise to put one up soon!)

For all my bloggers out there that are pursuing fitness goals, whether its to lose weight, bulk up, or just to get in better shape, hang in there!! Lord knows its not easy, but when you finally see those results it will be beyond worth it:-) I will post any fitness info as I come across it, including recipes and whatnot…I have a ton of those myself! Just for starters though, I have provided a few links below for the home workouts that I used starting out…I have used each one from beginning to end so please let me know if you have any questions! (*Note: I do receive a small commission from the links below via Amazon, but as I said I have personally used each one and would not recommend anything otherwise)

Jillian Michaels Ripped in 30

Jillian Michaels – 30 Day Shred

Jeanette Jenkins / The Hollywood Trainer: Bikini Bootcamp

Til’ next time….

-Me

“The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice….its conformity”- Rollo May

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Ok so before I begin, I feel the need to just throw out another disclaimer regarding the purpose of this here blog. About a month or so ago, I had a rough week. Not a rough day, but a whole rough week; looking back, I can’t really say what triggered it….I was just feeling down and out about life, I hit a stressful parenting roadblock, and I was just in a complete and utter funk. What brought me out of said funk, which ironically was the same day that I decided to start this blog, was that I realized that I could be an inspiration to others who may experience, or have experienced, the same feelings and emotions that I had. Even if I never get a chance to meet them, I know that I would be honored to be someone’s inspiration story  and the reason that they kept going. And that my friends, is what I hope to accomplish here! So there will not necessarily be any type of structure to this blog…just whatever I feel may be helpful and motivating to others:-)

So, with that being said, I read The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale the other day (for the 17th time) and I felt that it would be a great topic for my next post. In a previous post, I confessed my prior “personal” perception on what I considered to success to be…simply put, I used to believe that success was automatically equated to money, and at the time I believed that the only people who made real money were athletes, lawyers, CEOs, and Beyonce:-) However, this perception was obviously wrong and was changed dramatically, thanks to The Strangest Secret. Success, as defined by Earl Nightingale, is “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal”. Although this is obviously a very simple definition, it was a fairly difficult concept for me to grasp. What exactly constituted a worthy idea?? The cure to cancer? Developing flying cars?? I had no clue so I read further….magnify-question-mark-1

“A success is the schoolteacher who is teaching school because that’s what she wanted to do. A success is the woman who’s a wife and a mother because she wanted to become a wife and a mother and is doing a good job of it. Success is the man who runs the corner gas station because that’s what he wanted to do”. What does all this mean?? It means that success is considered to be anyone that deliberately dos a predetermined job because that’s what he/she wants to do. I believe this is where society gets confused. As Nightingale states, you can ask most individuals today “Why do you work?” and most will not have a clear idea as to the answer. Sure, they will say, “To pay bills, provide for my family, etc.” but in reality most will really not have an answer to why they are doing a job that they really do not want to do…or why they are doing any job for that matter.

Nightingale asserts that there is one key to success or failure, (depending on the individual) and this is simply: “We become what we think about”. I’m sure this is familiar to some, right? The Secret? Law of Attraction? I’m sorry to all my non-believers (it took me a while myself), but there is nothing you can do to convince me that we do NOT become what we think about. This is something that I personally have realized, both in terms of the positive and the negative, and it was four simple steps that brought me to these realizations (similar to the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, but more straightforward).

One: You will become what you think about (good and bad)

Two: Imagination…let it soar!! Always!!

Three: Make sure that you concentrate on your goal, whatever that may be, every single daythe_strangest_secret_to_success

Four: Save 10% of what you earn (even it may not be much, start somewhere!)

And that folks, sums it up!! Now just let me say, in previous posts I went over the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success…I am not saying that you HAVE  to apply all these laws in your life in order for you to see change within your self, however you will begin to notice that they all kinda tie in together….just different titles:-) Either way, follow these steps…remember that nothing happens overnight, but notice the change that will begin to take place in your life, on both the outside and the inside:-) Before I say goodbye, however, I just wanted to direct you guys to the links below as a reference to where I purchased my own copy of The Strangest Secret, as well as The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, in case you would like to do the same!

The Strangest Secret
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams

*Note: I do receive a small commission for all purchases through Amazon.com, however I will not recommend an item to anyone that I have not personally viewed myself*

Be blessed! Til’ next time….

-Me

“The crowning fortune of a man is to be born to some pursuit which finds him employment and happiness, whether it be to make baskets, or broadswords, or canals, or statues, or songs.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Good afternoon ladies and gents!!! I hope everyone is having a SPECTACULAR day so far….I apologize for missing my post yesterday, life just kinda got away from me and by the time I put the rugrat down for bed I crashed myself…however I am here now! *bows with a flourish*

So….we finally made it! The 7th law of the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, which is *insert festive drum roll from previous posts* the Law of Dharma, or purpose in life. Now, before I get into the specifics, its time for Moment of Honesty #87….although in less than 12 hours I will be turning a whopping 27 years old (I’m an old soul trust me), my growth process did not start until the last couple of years. Prior to then I can’t really tell you where exactly my mind was….not because I don’t want to, but because I truly don’t know…however what I DO know is that back then my definition of success was money….lots and lots of money. My belief was that unless you had millions, yachts, and exotic white tigers in your backyard, you weren’t successful (naive I know, but hey, moment of honesty remember?) . Now, that’s not me saying that money is a bad thing….. AT ALL (wine and Netflix has to get paid for in some way, right?), but what I am saying is that it wasn’t until I read this book that I discovered success is not just limited to monetary gain.

 

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“Everyone has a purpose in life…a unique gift or special talent to give to others. And when we blend this unique talent with service to others, we experience the ecstasy and exultation of our own spirit, which is the ultimate goal of all goals”.

What this law is basically stating is that we, yes all of us, have taken manifestation in a physical form to fulfill a particular purpose. Each and every one of us has a talent or gift that NO ONE else in the world has….sounds amazing doesn’t it? What’s even cooler is that for every unique talent/gift, there is also a unique need that matches them. Being able to express your gifts to fulfill these needs ultimately creates both unlimited wealth and abundance, and THAT my friend is success. Chase your TRUE dream and the rest will come later.

Take me for example…my plan isn’t to make millions off blogging. Anyone that knows me probably would say I would be the last person to even start a blog. However, after fasting and prayer, I knew that part of my purpose (I’m still in the process of discovering the rest) is to help people. I wasn’t exactly sure how, but I knew it was what I had, and needed, to do. Hence, n3wbeginnings11…what better way can you reach hundreds, thousands, even millions, of people all over the world? I want to inspire and motivate as many people as possible on things that I personally have experienced in my 27 years of life….depression, parenthood, insecurities, health and wellness (physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially). I made the decision to step out of my comfort zone and write about lessons I have learned…circumstances I have made it through…all for the purpose of touching as many as I can. As of now, I have 20 followers via wordpress, and in my opinion those are 20 more people I can possibly reach out to on a daily basis.

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How do you apply the Law of Dharma to your life, do you ask? Simple! Write a list of all of your unique talents or gifts…things that when you do them, you completely lost track of time. Then ask yourself, “How can I serve”?…not what’s in it for you…or how much you could make from it, but simply “How can I help”? Once you do this, in addition to following the previous 6 laws, and be patient, you will see a change in your life and the life that you can give others. If you pray then throw some prayer in there….no matter what your beliefs are, this book has the potential to completely change your life for the better.

For those that want to purchase the book, I bought mine from Amazon for about 4 bucks…I also provided a link below for a cool website that’s dedicated specifically to the Seven Laws of Success..it offers daily inspiration, discusses the Seven Laws, in addition to having other services:

The Chopra Center

I hope that you all have enjoyed this last week and I pray that I have put some inspiration in your lives:) Til’ next time beautiful people……

-Me

“Your heart must become a sea of love. Your mind must become a river of detachment”

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Happy Sunday all!!!

So we’re on to the 6th law of the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success…the Law of Detachment. This law holds special meaning for me, particularly today, primarily because I am well-aware of how attached I can be to things and circumstances (usually those of the negative variety). There have been various times throughout my life when I was 100% UNSURE of how bills were going to get paid, how I was going to get a particular job, how tuition was going to get covered (I definitely DO NOT miss that part of undergrad), and several other circumstances/situations that I don’t need to bore you with. The bottom line is that I was stressed, depressed, and all-around bummed the h*** out because i had no idea how things were going to fall into place and I was ATTACHED to the overall outcome…I wasn’t able to relinquish my attachment to money, the future, my career….ANYTHING. Needless to say, this did nothing but bring more stress and unhappiness to my life and it ultimately became a merry-go-round of self-pity, jealously, resentment, self-doubt, yada, yada, yada.

I did not realized the solution to this until recently (I’m talking within the last year) and it was not until then that I was able to acknowledge this weakness of mine and take the necessary steps to change it. This is where the Law of Detachment comes in:

“In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty…in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities, we surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe”.

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In lamest terms, the Law of Detachment says “in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it”. Now, this DOES NOT mean that you give up your intention to have what you seek OR the desire to have it, you simply give up the attachment you have to the end result. This was my mistake….I was SO focused (a.k.a attached), on the end goal (getting that particular bill paid, finding that job) that I was devastated when things didn’t go my way. or when I was unsure of how things were going to get accomplished. You can call it Trust, Faith, whatever you want, but detachment is based on the UNQUESTIONING BELIEF that you have in your TRUE SELF, which was something I was lacking…a LOT.

In the previous post, I discussed the Law of Intention and Desire…one law does not interfere with the other in any way whatsoever. With the Law of Intention and Desire, you still have a desire and an end goal, a point A and B; the Law of Detachment just acknowledges the infinite possibilities that are between those two points and emphasizes not to become attached to one specific outcome. By incorporating the Law of Detachment into our lives, we will begin look at every problem and negative circumstance as an opportunity for a greater benefit. As this happens, we will be better prepared to take advantage of all the great experiences that life has to offer; “what is often called good luck will be nothing but opportunity and preparedness coming together”.

Enjoy the rest of your Sunday everyone! Til’ next time…..

-Me

“In the beginning there was desire, which was the first seed of mind; sages, having meditated in their hearts, have discovered by their wisdom the connection of the existent with the non-existent”.-The Hymn of Creation

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Happy Saturday everyone!! I hope you guy’s weekend is beyond awesome so far…mine is going pretty spectacular if I say so myself…the big 2-7 is coming up in a few days(yay me)…had an invigorating session of Insanity that consisted of Plyometrics and Cardio (trust me, there will be posts about that workout in the future)…and I have all the seasons of Burn Notice waiting for me on Netflix. Yep, my Saturday is lookin’ pretty good…

So we’re on to Day #5 of The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success….for those that are just tuning in, you can read about the previous four in my earlier blogs…I didn’t forget about ya:-) Ok, so Day #5….the Law of Intention and Desire; as always I will give you guys a snippet straight from the book, just to give you all an idea of what we’re talking about here so here ya go:

“Inherent in every intention and desire is the mechanics for its fulfillment….intention and desire in the field of pure potentiality have infinite organizing power. And when we introduce an intention in the fertile ground of pure potentiality, we put this infinite organizing power to work for us”.

Deepak Chopra goes into this law quite extensively, however I’ll keep it as simple as possible. First and foremost, our environment, and our world cannot change, nor can things manifest in them, until we change the things WITHIN us. That’s a given…as I have said in previous posts, our current circumstances and/or situation, no matter if its good or bad, are happening because of our most inner thoughts and feelings. I know that, for some, this can be a hard pill to swallow (if definitely was for me) but I have come to realize that it is indeed the truth. Once we CHOOSE to change our way of thinking to a more positive light, our outer world will begin to change accordingly; this change is also brought on by two essential qualities that are inherent in our consciousness: ATTENTION AND INTENTION. This is simply broken down to: Whatever we put our ATTENTION on in life (good or bad) will grow stronger; whatever we take our attention from, will disappear. Simple right? INTENTION on the other hand, “triggers the transformation of energy and information…it organizes its own fulfillment”.

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So let’s recap: in order for our outer world to change, positively, we must first BELIEVE that it can happen (we must believe that we can get that job, or that car, or that man/woman), secondly, we must then throw that INTENTION into the field of pure potentiality (discussed on Day 1). This can be done in various ways. Me personally, I created a vision board of some of the most beautiful places in the world that I plan to visit. I put them in frames on the wall so that I am able to look at them everyday. You can also make a list of all of your desires (I have done this as well) and make it a point to look at it before you go to sleep and when you first wake up. Once we accomplish this, we then take the necessary ACTION to ensure that our INTENTIONS come to pass. We don’t worry about the details and the specifics…we simply BELIEVE, INTEND, THEN DO.

event_144525112We have the power to do and become anything and everything that we could possibly want. The key to this is to believe within ourselves that it can happen and refuse to let anyone or anything take us away from that belief. No obstacles, no negativity, no family members or friends who say it can’t happen…..NOTHING.

We have a GOD-given power in us that allows us to manifest all of our dreams and desires, but we must first KNOW that it is possible…..once this happens, we, nor our dreams, can be stopped.

Have a wonderful evening everyone! Til’ next time…..

-Me