“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world”- Lucille Ball

Happy Wednesday ladies and gents!! I know, I know, long time no see, right? You would NOT believe the whirlwind my life has been for the last few weeks (including the removal of 4 wisdom teeth, which I am just now recovering from), and currently still is, although I have a somewhat better grip on my day-to-day happenings. So with that being said, the little one is sleep for a couple of hours (let us pray) and I have a moment to breathe (kinda) and much blogging to do….download (4)

I am taking a page from a blog post that I follow, The Daily Post (GREAT blog by the way), and decided to write about one of my many firsts…and for those that may want to use this particular idea for their own blog, you can write about ANY firsts…your first love, your first day at a particular job, the first time you had sushi, or made out in public (to each his own, right?). Whatever “first” that you have in mind, go for it! Me personally, I decided to write on the first day that I became a parent….not when I became pregnant, but when I actually had the little ball of snot and bodily fluids that was my daughter (and I say that with the most loving tone).

I cried. I mean of course I did the few, cute little tears of joy when she was first born, but that night, after all the hoopla died down, the in-laws had left, and the nurses were done prodding at me, it truly hit me that I was now 100% responsible for someone else’s life (other than my own obviously) and I cried like there was no tomorrow. I was scared, excited (but still more scared), and anxious about the future (but still even more scared). Lord knows I didn’t have the perfect parents growing up, and really, who did? But I was terrified that I would fail this little girl somehow and she wasn’t even a day old. So I cried, and I cried some more, then I had like 8 cans of Pepsi, and I cried even more. I never knew you could experience postpartum so soon after having a child, I thought it was a grace period of at least a month…

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My first day being a parent put my mind in a perspective that I didn’t think I would ever experience…a sense of determination that was not there before. And to be quite honest its this sense of determination that scares me sometimes. I’m so determined to be a great parent that I’m terrified that I’m going to fail at it; I experienced that whole array of emotions over the last couple of weeks. I made some mistakes (like we all do, I know) that at first made me question my ability to be a great model for my daughter…a woman that she will want to look up to and be proud of. And I am still fighting with the negative aspects of these feelings, but I have to remind myself to do the best that I can everyday and that’s the most that anyone can ask for.

I am determined to provide the best for my daughter…and not just in the cliche way that every parent wants the best for their child, but I want to offer her the things that I didn’t even know existed up until 3 years ago. I want to offer her the awareness of the power that she will have within herself, the confidence in her own abilities, and the knowledge that she can succeed at whatever she puts her thoughts and mind to. These are all things that I thought about my first day/night as a parent, and all things that I still think about till this day….I do not have a clear path on how exactly I am going to accomplish the things that I want..both as a mom and as a woman, but I have the passion and drive to take the first step 🙂

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Thanks for listening all! Til’ next time…

-Me

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“The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice….its conformity”- Rollo May

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Ok so before I begin, I feel the need to just throw out another disclaimer regarding the purpose of this here blog. About a month or so ago, I had a rough week. Not a rough day, but a whole rough week; looking back, I can’t really say what triggered it….I was just feeling down and out about life, I hit a stressful parenting roadblock, and I was just in a complete and utter funk. What brought me out of said funk, which ironically was the same day that I decided to start this blog, was that I realized that I could be an inspiration to others who may experience, or have experienced, the same feelings and emotions that I had. Even if I never get a chance to meet them, I know that I would be honored to be someone’s inspiration story  and the reason that they kept going. And that my friends, is what I hope to accomplish here! So there will not necessarily be any type of structure to this blog…just whatever I feel may be helpful and motivating to others:-)

So, with that being said, I read The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale the other day (for the 17th time) and I felt that it would be a great topic for my next post. In a previous post, I confessed my prior “personal” perception on what I considered to success to be…simply put, I used to believe that success was automatically equated to money, and at the time I believed that the only people who made real money were athletes, lawyers, CEOs, and Beyonce:-) However, this perception was obviously wrong and was changed dramatically, thanks to The Strangest Secret. Success, as defined by Earl Nightingale, is “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal”. Although this is obviously a very simple definition, it was a fairly difficult concept for me to grasp. What exactly constituted a worthy idea?? The cure to cancer? Developing flying cars?? I had no clue so I read further….magnify-question-mark-1

“A success is the schoolteacher who is teaching school because that’s what she wanted to do. A success is the woman who’s a wife and a mother because she wanted to become a wife and a mother and is doing a good job of it. Success is the man who runs the corner gas station because that’s what he wanted to do”. What does all this mean?? It means that success is considered to be anyone that deliberately dos a predetermined job because that’s what he/she wants to do. I believe this is where society gets confused. As Nightingale states, you can ask most individuals today “Why do you work?” and most will not have a clear idea as to the answer. Sure, they will say, “To pay bills, provide for my family, etc.” but in reality most will really not have an answer to why they are doing a job that they really do not want to do…or why they are doing any job for that matter.

Nightingale asserts that there is one key to success or failure, (depending on the individual) and this is simply: “We become what we think about”. I’m sure this is familiar to some, right? The Secret? Law of Attraction? I’m sorry to all my non-believers (it took me a while myself), but there is nothing you can do to convince me that we do NOT become what we think about. This is something that I personally have realized, both in terms of the positive and the negative, and it was four simple steps that brought me to these realizations (similar to the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, but more straightforward).

One: You will become what you think about (good and bad)

Two: Imagination…let it soar!! Always!!

Three: Make sure that you concentrate on your goal, whatever that may be, every single daythe_strangest_secret_to_success

Four: Save 10% of what you earn (even it may not be much, start somewhere!)

And that folks, sums it up!! Now just let me say, in previous posts I went over the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success…I am not saying that you HAVE  to apply all these laws in your life in order for you to see change within your self, however you will begin to notice that they all kinda tie in together….just different titles:-) Either way, follow these steps…remember that nothing happens overnight, but notice the change that will begin to take place in your life, on both the outside and the inside:-) Before I say goodbye, however, I just wanted to direct you guys to the links below as a reference to where I purchased my own copy of The Strangest Secret, as well as The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, in case you would like to do the same!

The Strangest Secret
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams

*Note: I do receive a small commission for all purchases through Amazon.com, however I will not recommend an item to anyone that I have not personally viewed myself*

Be blessed! Til’ next time….

-Me

“An integral being knows without going, sees without looking, and accomplishes without doing”-Lao Tzu

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Whoop! Whoop! Its Friday people! Time to dust off the stress and dirt from the week, crack open a bottle of wine (or something stronger for those who had a REALLY rough one), and simply BE. Trust me, I plan to do the same, however before I commence with that I have to, of course, present to you all a great concept of life which is the Law of Least Effort…day 4 of The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.  Now, as I know that some of you all may have plans and whatnot for the evening, in addition to the fact that my daughter is currently running amok and attempting to backwash in my water cup, I will keep this short but informational!!

Day 4: Law of Least Effort

“Nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease….with carefreeness, harmony, and love. And when we harness the forces of harmony, joy, and love, we create success and good fortune with effortless ease”.

Moment of honesty #57….I constantly fight with myself (on a somewhat daily basis) to not “fight” against current circumstances; if things are not happening in the order and way I expect them to go, I tend to get stressed and frustrated, fighting to make things go my way, when I in fact, should just set back and offer no resistance. Now, this is not to say you shouldn’t work hard to make things happen..not in the least bit…however we SHOULD do our best to ensure that the least effort possible is exerted. In his book, Chopra uses nature to illustrate this concept. When we look at nature, it is obvious that grass doesn’t TRY to grow, it just does….fish don’t TRY to swim, they just swim…flowers don’t TRY to bloom, they just bloom…so on and so forth. This same “method” can be applied to our lives, in turn, opening the door to a joyful and simple freedom, unlike anything we have experiences before.

The Law of Least Effort can be put into effect by simply making a commitment to the following steps:

1. Practicing Acceptance– accept people, circumstances, and situations as they occur and understand that that particular moment is exactly as it should be. You can work to ensure that circumstances in the future are different, but make an effort to not struggle against your present

2. Take responsibility-as you accept things as they are, take responsibility for your situation, including the things that you see as problems. Once you accomplish this, you can then recognize that in every problem, there is an opportunity for a solution!

3. Defenselessness-all this means is that you will not feel the need convince, nor persuade others to accept your point of view. By doing this, you will gain access to a tremendous amount of energy….significantly more than you would have gained when working to defend your point of view all the time (trust me, it works…being defensive was a great weakness of mine).

And that sexy people, concludes Law 4 of the seven spiritual laws of success. I hope that you all have been enjoying them thus far and please leave comments if you so feel inclined:)

I hope you all have a wonderful and relaxing Friday evening!! Til’ next time…..

-Me

“Karma is the eternal assertion of human freedom…our thoughts, our words, and deeds are the threads of the net which we throw around ourselves”.

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*struts onto stage sexily*

Happy Thursday Facebookers and fellow blogsters!! So, I would have to say that it was a pretty good day today here in Greensboro….sunny and just a little too hot…dealing with runny-nosed children and shedding golden retrievers….random question: have you ever turned on the front burner of the stove, thinking it was the back one, and proceeded to go about your evening until 30 minutes later the smoke alarm starts blaring as a result of the smoke that is emanating from the now, extremely hot burner, because of the food particles that fell in the burner weeks ago? No? No one? Yea, me either…..

Now that that crisis is averted, I can get back to telling you good folks about KARMA…yep that good ol’ friend that comes back to either bless us or kick us in the a$$, depending on the circumstances. So, with that being said….

*steps back and pulls curtain aside Vanna White style*

Day #3: Law of Karma

Now, what exactly is karma? (Just for the folks who may not know) Chopra defines karma as “an action and the consequence of that action; it is cause and effect simultaneously, because every action generates a force of energy that returns to us in like kind”.

What goes around comes around………..yep, we all heard that infamous line at least some point of our lives….repetitive line, but oh so true. I have both experience and witness karma…been on her good side and bad side, and it were these moments in life that made me totally revamped my thoughts and actions. This was achieved by simply asking myself, “What are the consequences of the choices I’m making”? And from there if the consequences will not bring happiness to me or those around me, it is not the right choice for me.

Once you begin to ask yourself this, you will bring nothing but good energy not only to yourself, but everyone around you!

Keep this in mind ladies and gents…til next time….

-Me

“You are what your deep, driving desire is. As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.”~Brihadaranya Upanishad

Good evening good people!! So we’re going to start this post-Labor Day week off (although its currently almost 10pm my time) with a bit of life motivation regarding success….success in your personal life, your finances, health…whatever area you decide to apply it to! Now, where does this motivation stem from do you ask?

Welp, the answer to that $1,000,000 question would be “The Seven Secret Laws of Success“, written by Deepak Chopra. The seven laws described in this book (I recommend reading them over the course of seven days) paves the way to fulfilling both your dreams and desires in whatever area that you seek (and let’s be honest, we all could use a little help in that arena, am I right or am I right?). I PERSONALLY have read this book several times over and the laws that are within are practices that I make it a point to follow to this day. Over the course of the next week I will discuss one law per day…not in complete detail of course (that’s what Amazon and Walmart are for good people:), but just enough to make you all aware of the life that can be had through personal wellness, financial freedom, and spiritual well-being.

Before I dive into the first law of the book, let me briefly illustrate what drew me to this particular book in the first place. Simply put, I wanted and needed more out of life….I needed a clear understanding as to what my purpose was (and is) on this great ol’ beautiful planet. The Seven Secret Laws of Success opened the doorway to accomplish these things, and although I am still growing, and most certainly learning, I wanted to share what I have learned so far with others. With that being said, let’s get to the good stuff!!

Day 1: The Law of Pure Potentiality

Now here’s a thought for your intellectual tastebuds:

“The source of all creation is pure consciousness…..pure potentiality seeking expression from the unmanifest to the the manifest. And when we realize that our true self is one of pure potentiality, we align with the power that manifests everything in the universe.”

Now, what does that mean in lamest terms? Simply that when we we all discover who we TRULY are (our true self), we have the ability to fulfill any dream that we desire. We can put the law of pure potentiality in effect by implementing the three steps below:

1. Meditate twice a day for at least 30 minutes (preferably in the morning when you wake and before you go to sleep). Now with me being a busy mother, student, and having a host of other responsibilities, I find this to be my most challenging step (I know, I know, its only 30 minutes) so don’t become discouraged if you have trouble at first…just start small and go from there:)

2. Commune with nature on a daily basis-watch a sunset/sunrise, or simply smell a flower; just acknowledge nature’s beauty.

3. Practice the art of non-judgement; all this step means is that throughout the day pledge to be non-judgmental of any person and/or situation that you come across. Easy as pie:)

Now will you see an instant change as soon as you do the above steps? Probably not…nothing happens overnight. But trust me you will get the ball rolling on all the greatness that not only will come to you, but that you can pass to others as well:)

I wish everyone a beautiful and blessed night…..til’ next time….

-Me